Dumpsville ponderings

Life is BUSY.
Unfortunate timing, as I’m experiencing a distinct funk at present, leaving me utterly drained. I’m an exhausted, heaving assemblage of emotional debris.
I have a residential week at University starting on Monday, (while working at night to keep things at the office on-track). As my dissatisfaction with my current professional role slowly smolders towards [...]

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Men, ARGH!!!

Men. *sigh* Why do I bother?
The gulf of understanding on either side leaves me yearning for so much more.
A relationship should be based on mutual respect and understanding.
My current one seems to be more of a battle of egos.
I’m too old and set-in-my-ways to be bothered waging a war of wills. Experience tells me that [...]

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Talking to an old friend

I had a phone call from an old friend recently that sent into a reflective spin  regarding the qualities that make a great friendship.
In the company of a good friend, words simply don’t matter.
With someone who knows us well, (and despite that, still manages to love us!), the quality of the conversation quickly becomes irrelevant.
Those [...]

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Social networking sites – why do we do it?

It’s been a long while  since I was a web-land professional, but I remain fascinated by the meteoric trajectory of the social media genre. Almost everyone, it seems, is engaged in social media in some form – FaceBook, Twitter,  MySpace, Bebo – if you’re not logged-on,  you’re out-of-touch!
Why do we do it? Is it some [...]

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What women (and men!) want

I used to think relationships were all about love. Then I thought it was compromise…
Following several years of solid reflection following the implosion of my marriage, I’ve decided (at least for now!) that the driving force in interpersonal relationships is not our search for acceptance, but a desperate yearning to be understood.
It is not enough [...]

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Fish – needs bicycle

Searching for a partner can be a traumatic experience. Often we look for partners that will complete us, not complement us. We say it all the time:

‘he completes me’
‘she’s my better half’

Besides being nauseating company, becoming achingly-co-dependent is dangerous.
When rely on others to fulfil us, we allow others to make us miserable. [...]

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Manic, who me?!

I frequently wax lyrical about the depths of despair I plummet to when depressed, but there’s a reason I fight the need to medicate my bipolar disorder – mania.
For me, when I’m experiencing it – a manic episode is a beautiful, beautiful thing. For those trying to live with me while I’m experiencing it – [...]

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Top 5: Fundamental elements of a successful relationship

Every relationship has give and take. But how much should you give – and how much should you take? Some relationships work seamlessly, and others are more like an endurance event. Whether this is Mr/Ms Right, or Mr/Ms Right Now hinges on just a few key ingredients.
To help you decipher between the two, here are [...]

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Mother’s Day

With Mother’s Day just around the corner, I can’t help but be moved by what it means to be a Mum.
Being a Mum is a tough gig. The hours are unreasonable, the workload is unrelenting, and your achievements frequently go unnoticed. I recall one particularly teary early morning feed where I deduced that whoever coined [...]

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Single grey hair (I’m getting old?!)

It started with a single grey hair.
My partner and I were staying with friends on the Easter weekend. Getting dressed the next morning,  I noticed a single, solitary grey hair amongst my fulsome head of stylishly salon-coloured, bob-styled locks. In an instant, I felt the spunk drain right outta me. As women do in these [...]

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