I used to think relationships were all about love. Then I thought it was compromise…
Following several years of solid reflection following the implosion of my marriage, I’ve decided (at least for now!) that the driving force in interpersonal relationships is not our search for acceptance, but a desperate yearning to be understood.
It is not enough [...]
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What women (and men!) want
Posted in Life, Marriage, Relationships, love, men, tagged What men want, What women want on June 21, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Fish – needs bicycle
Posted in Life, Personal goals, love, men, taking control of your life, work life balance, tagged Happiness on June 15, 2009 | 2 Comments »
Searching for a partner can be a traumatic experience. Often we look for partners that will complete us, not complement us. We say it all the time:
‘he completes me’
‘she’s my better half’
Besides being nauseating company, becoming achingly-co-dependent is dangerous.
When rely on others to fulfil us, we allow others to make us miserable. [...]
New job: Day 1 (inter alia)
Posted in Dating, Life, career, men, work life balance on October 11, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
*phew* I am exhausted.
I had my first day (well, in fact, it was two half-days) at my new job this week.
As expected, it was wall-to-wall meetings, but it also proved to be really interesting, and I think it’s going to be a lot of fun. No doubt I’ll blog more on that after I’ve officially [...]
Top 5: Reasons it’s hard being a woman
Posted in Beauty, Feminism, Humour, Life, Relationships, Top 5, men, work life balance on August 7, 2008 | 3 Comments »
# Top 5: Reasons it’s hard being a woman
1. Promoted on your back vs pat on the back
When a woman gets promoted, men assume it’s because you used your charm to get there, or your appointment smacks of tokenism. In fact, women are more likely to apply for a job that’s ‘beneath’ them, than a [...]
Top 5: Reasons I wouldn’t want to be a guy
Posted in Humour, Moments of bitch, Top 5, men on August 5, 2008 | 1 Comment »
It’s hard work being a guy these days.
If you’re a man, and not a slack-jawed, dim-witted red-neck, it can be hard to strike the right balance between being masculine and being a wet, soppy, cloy-boy. Men are judged far more freely, and with far more venom, than women in today’s society. It’s a rough wicket, [...]
Boy, oh boy!
Posted in Feminism, Humour, Life, Moments of bitch, men on August 4, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Who’d be male?
They may still (for the most part) rule the Boardroom, but I wouldn’t want to be male for quids!
A close friend and her young daughter came over for a cuppa recently. Her daughter wore a T-shirt and jeans. (A nice change from the Bratz-style prostitute-like outfits she so frequently wears, but that’s a [...]
Still no word following the horrible discussion with the (ex?) partner earlier in the week.
My house is a mess. My eyes are red-raw. My nose is snuffly, and I have a pounding headache…
The sole consolation is that I am looking after myself. I’ve managed to workout every day since he left. I’ve been eating well, have [...]
Damaged goods
Posted in Break-ups, Dating, Relationships, men on June 12, 2008 | 3 Comments »
I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry.
This post on the use of the term ‘damaged goods‘ made for an interesting light read.
By the reckoning of the ‘men’ consulted in writing the post – I’m seriously damaged goods. I tick almost all of the boxes. Completely un-datable.
Interestingly, having conducted my own ‘research’ lately (read: drunken sobbing phone [...]
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Posted in Break-ups, Dating, Feminism, Relationships, men on June 11, 2008 | 3 Comments »
Are there any good men left?
As I teeter on the verge of singledom, I find myself yet again frustrated by my inability to understand the male psyche.
I’ll never understand the way men discuss women with other men. The misogynist references (’she’s a dog’) and utter quantification. It saddens me. It frustrates me. It sickens me.
I have tried [...]
Girl-words (she said)
Posted in Dating, Feminism, Humour, Life, love, men on May 17, 2008 | 6 Comments »
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She says: Five minutes.
She means: 15-20 minutes.
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She says: That’s fine, baby. <soft voice>
She means: I really don’t mind at all.
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She says: Fine. <sharp voice>
She means: It’s not fine. It’s not fine at all. It is distinctly UNFINE. You are in SOOOOO much trouble.
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She says: I’ll call you tomorrow.
She means: I’ll TRY to hold-off calling you [...]
