Men, ARGH!!!

Men. *sigh* Why do I bother?
The gulf of understanding on either side leaves me yearning for so much more.
A relationship should be based on mutual respect and understanding.
My current one seems to be more of a battle of egos.
I’m too old and set-in-my-ways to be bothered waging a war of wills. Experience tells me that [...]

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Talking to an old friend

I had a phone call from an old friend recently that sent into a reflective spin  regarding the qualities that make a great friendship.
In the company of a good friend, words simply don’t matter.
With someone who knows us well, (and despite that, still manages to love us!), the quality of the conversation quickly becomes irrelevant.
Those [...]

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What women (and men!) want

I used to think relationships were all about love. Then I thought it was compromise…
Following several years of solid reflection following the implosion of my marriage, I’ve decided (at least for now!) that the driving force in interpersonal relationships is not our search for acceptance, but a desperate yearning to be understood.
It is not enough [...]

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Top 5: Fundamental elements of a successful relationship

Every relationship has give and take. But how much should you give – and how much should you take? Some relationships work seamlessly, and others are more like an endurance event. Whether this is Mr/Ms Right, or Mr/Ms Right Now hinges on just a few key ingredients.
To help you decipher between the two, here are [...]

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Mother’s Day

With Mother’s Day just around the corner, I can’t help but be moved by what it means to be a Mum.
Being a Mum is a tough gig. The hours are unreasonable, the workload is unrelenting, and your achievements frequently go unnoticed. I recall one particularly teary early morning feed where I deduced that whoever coined [...]

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2009: the story so far

In the business analysis world, we have regular performance reviews against business plans and so on. This systematic holding-to-account forces a refocus of energy and resources on achieving an organisation’s top priorities.
So, given that governance is what I DO professionally, with March now behind us, I thought it was time I held a quarterly review [...]

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The delicate dance of love

aaahh, the mystical whimsy of the weaving of romantic magic. The gentle glittering of wonder against the sparkling backdrop of possibility. Soft music. Flattering lighting. The verbal ping-pong of witty, slightly acerbic, mildly ambiguous banter and the unmistakably enigmatic air of ‘I wonder if they like me back?’
Romance can be magical. Alas, Valentine’s Day really [...]

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# Top 5: Ways to meet potential partners

# Top 5: Ways to meet potential partners
Your friends and family are telling you you should ‘get out there’. Sheesh! It’s not like you’re always single by choice. That’s not to suggest that you’re desperate, it’s just not always easy to ‘meet someone nice’ who shares the same values, while managing to intrigue and [...]

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Top 5: Reasons it’s hard being a woman

# Top 5: Reasons it’s hard being a woman
1. Promoted on your back vs pat on the back
When a woman gets promoted, men assume it’s because you used your charm to get there, or your appointment smacks of tokenism. In fact, women are more likely to apply for a job that’s ‘beneath’ them, than a [...]

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Damaged goods

I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry.
This post on the use of the term ‘damaged goods‘ made for an interesting light read.
By the reckoning of the ‘men’ consulted in writing the post – I’m seriously damaged goods. I tick almost all of the boxes. Completely un-datable.
Interestingly, having conducted my own ‘research’ lately (read: drunken sobbing phone [...]

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