Comments for The view from Wit's End http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com Wit's End. A destination. A state of mind. The view from the edge-of-reason is one of righteous indignation; where sanity falters and reasonable doubt is snuffed out. Judgement is nigh. Grab a drink and pull up a chair... Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:42:16 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Home, sweet home by stiofainod http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/09/19/home-sweet-home/#comment-321 stiofainod Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:42:16 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=764#comment-321 I've a similaresque relationship to my surroundings. They certainly reflect how my life is going although I'm not sure I've figured out the pattern yet I’ve a similaresque relationship to my surroundings. They certainly reflect how my life is going although I’m not sure I’ve figured out the pattern yet

]]> Comment on Technology runs my life! by beulah http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/technology-runs-my-life/#comment-319 beulah Mon, 31 Aug 2009 16:57:02 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=698#comment-319 Picture looks great !!! Picture looks great !!!

]]> Comment on Technology runs my life! by beulah http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/technology-runs-my-life/#comment-318 beulah Mon, 31 Aug 2009 14:32:58 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=698#comment-318 This picture is really awesome!! This picture is really awesome!!

]]> Comment on Men, ARGH!!! by lyncampbell http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/men-argh/#comment-317 lyncampbell Mon, 31 Aug 2009 10:30:19 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=732#comment-317 True enough, but then I've known those too stubborn to walk away from a toxic union too. I guess the wisdom is in being able to discern the difference. True enough, but then I’ve known those too stubborn to walk away from a toxic union too. I guess the wisdom is in being able to discern the difference.

]]> Comment on Men, ARGH!!! by lyncampbell http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/men-argh/#comment-316 lyncampbell Mon, 31 Aug 2009 10:26:27 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=732#comment-316 Crepitus, I've missed your words of wisdom a lot lately. Crepitus, I’ve missed your words of wisdom a lot lately.

]]> Comment on Men, ARGH!!! by Crepitus http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/men-argh/#comment-315 Crepitus Mon, 31 Aug 2009 09:36:52 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=732#comment-315 I expect that in some relationships, a battle of wills, wits and egos is what keeps the relationship working. Every aspect is challenged and sharpened daily - from what to do today (wills), to maintaining a verbal and reasoning edge (wits) and to retaining an adequate sense of self (ego). Fun, stimulating and exciting. But my guess is that most people don't work like that. Most of us seek something like security, so we don't always have to perform - it's just too tiring for most of us. We develop mutual understanding, so our wills don't clash. We submerge ego into the relationship, at least some of the time. A relationship is worth it if enough buttons are being pressed often enough (no, that's not a sexual metaphor). We all have different buttons and different preferred quantities of pressing. If adequate button pressing is not happening, and it stays that way despite communication, what's left can be a whole lot of things, many of them good. But it's not a complete relationship and it won't be satisfying. Maybe one educates the expectations to get used to what is available if one can. Or maybe one decides to give up on a seedling that will never turn into the plant one wants it to be. I expect that in some relationships, a battle of wills, wits and egos is what keeps the relationship working. Every aspect is challenged and sharpened daily – from what to do today (wills), to maintaining a verbal and reasoning edge (wits) and to retaining an adequate sense of self (ego). Fun, stimulating and exciting.

But my guess is that most people don’t work like that. Most of us seek something like security, so we don’t always have to perform – it’s just too tiring for most of us. We develop mutual understanding, so our wills don’t clash. We submerge ego into the relationship, at least some of the time.

A relationship is worth it if enough buttons are being pressed often enough (no, that’s not a sexual metaphor). We all have different buttons and different preferred quantities of pressing. If adequate button pressing is not happening, and it stays that way despite communication, what’s left can be a whole lot of things, many of them good. But it’s not a complete relationship and it won’t be satisfying.

Maybe one educates the expectations to get used to what is available if one can. Or maybe one decides to give up on a seedling that will never turn into the plant one wants it to be.

]]> Comment on Technology runs my life! by Technology runs my life! « Tech Pinoy http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/technology-runs-my-life/#comment-314 Technology runs my life! « Tech Pinoy Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:15:18 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=698#comment-314 [...] View original here: Technology runs my life! [...] [...] View original here: Technology runs my life! [...]

]]> Comment on Men, ARGH!!! by stiofainod http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/men-argh/#comment-313 stiofainod Sun, 30 Aug 2009 15:17:59 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=732#comment-313 I guess I just hate to think that a person gives up because of a struggle. I guess people are different and place different values on what's worth struggling for. * shrugs * * hugs * I guess I just hate to think that a person gives up because of a struggle. I guess people are different and place different values on what’s worth struggling for.

* shrugs *

* hugs *

]]> Comment on Technology runs my life! by stiofainod http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/technology-runs-my-life/#comment-312 stiofainod Sun, 30 Aug 2009 15:09:49 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=698#comment-312 I turn the technology off. It's great. And I love that image :-) I turn the technology off. It’s great. And I love that image :-)

]]> Comment on Men, ARGH!!! by lyncampbell http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/2009/08/26/men-argh/#comment-311 lyncampbell Thu, 27 Aug 2009 10:34:17 +0000 http://viewfromwitsend.wordpress.com/?p=732#comment-311 That's a good question. I'm not sure that I know the answer. To me, some relationships seem like a hard slog, while others seem to flow more naturally. Of course, I've got an ex-husband, so perhaps I'm just lazy! That’s a good question. I’m not sure that I know the answer. To me, some relationships seem like a hard slog, while others seem to flow more naturally. Of course, I’ve got an ex-husband, so perhaps I’m just lazy!

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